Overview Throughout the years, The Skin Deep has provided a safe, non-judgmental space for real conversations thanks to the Emmy Award winning {THE AND} project. With over 1000 filmed videos, our library holds a great diversity of interactions from all over the world.
“If you’re wondering about…” is a video series that collects moments about specific topics that were talked about within our deep catalogue of conversations. The vision of {THE AND} is to build a catalogue of humans expressing their experiences and what it means to be in relationship with one another in the 21st Century. We believe there is something to learn from everyone, and that one’s life experience shared can be medicine for another, and vice versa. Thus we are proud to share with you moments pulled from our {THE AND} library that reflect exploration around a particular subject or situation.
In This Episode They say that friends are the family you choose for multiple reasons; one of the most important being: they’re always there when you need them. Through thick and thin. No matter what. In this episode, friends open their hearts to one another and share what friendship looks like in their lives.
VIDEO
As we explore new perspectives we invite you to step into the emotional space of connection and experience the deeper lessons that shared experiences can afford humanity. To everyone who has participated openly and vulnerably in our project - we appreciate what you have shared with us and hope others do as well.
Subscribe to our newsletter and get a digital dose of humanity straight to your inbox: http://www.theskindeep.com/subscribe
Transcript
If for some reason, I lost my memory-
What's the first thing you'd
I would be like, Hey, I’m your life partner,
we've been together for 18 years.
We probably have had many lives together,
but this is one we have right now.
that I'm really important,
And I would say that, like,
I'm hesitant to tell you?
I think you're probably hesitant
to tell me if you disagree
because you don't want to make me mad.
and I think that it's gotten a lot better
about upsetting me or about offending me.
So, like when you were going
of like some parts of it,
you didn't tell me until later
because you were worried.
that you were worried about me
but I think it was just part of
Yeah. It's more like the disappointment.
and some things were hard to communicate.
You know, even. Even now. Shit.
I have to think twice about- Oh, sorry.
Oh, we can curse. - We’re allowed, yeah.
about what I say or how I say it
You worry a lot about how you say things.
I never want to be the angry black lady,
which I talked to you years about that.
sometimes you'll send me a text
and you're like, Does this sound mean?
Yeah. - I have to like proof read it.
Yeah. Which is. That's hard.
I don't always struggle with that.
Thanks for helping me with that, by the way.
How have I changed since we first met
and how do you feel about it?
you're learning to love more
you didn't love people before.
Or you never did. It was like
you really show love a lot more now.
Yeah. - Showing that love to people.
Because I feel like it was hard for you
show that or even accept love sometimes.
spent a lot of time for some reason, just
seeing you, like, accept love,
to many people and certain people like.
I see how much that's, like, made
you grow and made you happy.
that's all I ever wanted for you
is just for you to, like, have that love.
That’s all I ever wanted.
I know you deserve, like, so much love.
When do you worry about me the most?
I think I worry about you most
hit very low points. - Fuck.
it scares me so much because
as a lot of us, as a lot of people have.
And I think I see the signs of
what it can do to somebody.
make me feel like I'm in lows.
because I feel as connected as we are
if you're going through it
then I'm going through it.
I completely agree with you
because when I hit my lows
and I know this for myself
that's when the, like, the barriers
And you're not going to know.
when you're in your darkest, or
That's when it's most hurtful to be
when my thoughts aren't as kind to me
and when I'm feeling really, really low,
that you will always text me
whenever I'm going through that,
rather you know it or not,
no matter what you're sending,
no matter what text or song or anything,
and you just always end up following it.
Like it's just so- it's so coincidental.
That's actually kind of scary,
call me or you're like, you'll text me.
Like, while I'm in this dark place.
but you kind of just like the perfect
You're so good in every way
And we have, like, the exact same,
sometimes I'll find myself
talking to someone at school
I read, and I'll be like,
one of the characters and they’ll be like,
Oh, darn, maybe that wasn't
maybe that was something weird to say.
And then I go to you and I'm like,
So this character is really cool.
And you’re like: Yes. Yes, I know, right?
such similar interests and like,
I can't describe you because you're so
I could come to is, like,
bold and, like, excited about everything.
you bring this, like, excitement to it
and you're like, oh, yes.
Like, I'm so happy to be doing this.
So I’m gonna put like my own twist on it.
I mean, maybe it's not the best time,
but you keep making me laugh,
even though I'm supposed to be
sentimental right now, and
not answering this question well enough,
because if I try to describe you,
you're just -you're you, you're Emmett.
you wish you could heal? - Oh.
You don’t have to answer it.
You- you don’t have to do it.
I mean, what I said before.
I wish you could see how beautiful
of a person that you really are.
I knew I was gonna sob on camera today.
I guess I like everything.
Because, like your friendship to me.
like if I called you at like
and I was like, I need you,
you would literally drop everything
and be there. - It's happened
just sucks to see like this
and you are so amazing and it's like,
Yeah, it just sucks that you don't
What was the greatest test
and what did we learn from it?
in the middle of the night
in the middle of the night.
And you were traveling and in need.
And actually the test for me
to get help for you, really.
and I was willing to do anything.
And I was thinking, okay,
who do I know here, or who do I know there?
was willing to stay on the phone
for just to get you onto the plane
to the next place, you know?
That was a taste, really. - Mm hmm.
This one honestly makes me really sad.
be different if we never met?
Well, why was- I'm, like, going to cry.
Yeah. I mean, there is no life.
I haven't had a life without you.
like a tangible question.
I feel I sound like wicked right
now, but, like, I feel like I wouldn't.
be the same at all. - Right.
I mean, we're the same person.
So I would just have to be someone else.
There’s no way for me to know who. - Right.
we're like in a home together
and we're like: I think we should die today.
And then we just kind of figure it out.
Or it would be like a coincidental thing
and everybody would be like. Right. - Laughing.
Either laughing or it would be like,
say, we're in different parts
And like they found out later
that we died at the exact same minute.
Everybody would be like: right. - Right.
Right. - Like, Oh, that makes sense.
Leave a comment