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In This Episode VIDEO
Parents, couples, sons and daughters talk about the challenges, the hardships and the blessings of parenthood. And how that looks to each one of them from their own perspective.
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Transcript
The way you and my dad had
brought up was obviously different
because everybody thinks differently
when it comes in terms to parenting. - Right.
And I think it was definitely hard.
But even when there was stuff like that,
you guys were best friends again
And that's how I get along to your Dad, too.
I guess I'll let the secret out.
Just get out and you're okay
my approach to parenting?
You can be no further away
from understanding something
from understanding parenthood,
all of the things that we said, no,
and we're going to do that.
And this is clearly going to be
the way that we're going to do this.
Oh, the mighty have fallen.
We're not going to do this that way.
And this will be the way that we do that.
falls on both of our shoulders.
But I certainly look to you
for a lot of guidance around
your intuition as a mother, because
I believe it's in your DNA
and I've watched you do it.
I watched you do it with child birthing.
I watched you do with child rearing.
And we have an amazing daughter.
one of the biggest surprises is
just how differently we're doing things
we said we were going to do
place of completely having no idea
to be like to have a kid.
Trying to parent as a mom and a dad.
even though being successful
there are things that one would think
that a woman can teach a man.
But I really try to encompass like if I-
even though I'm not- even though I'm a girl.
you know, male friends that were fathers
like what they were teaching their sons
or what I knew about them
that I needed to be telling you about.
one day you're going to go ‘pling’,
you know, it was gonna happen. - Oh my God.
that when you’re a woman and you're,
you know, you're a little boy or,
how to handle a girl on a date,
you know where- it will be
Versus me telling, you know,
you're supposed to open the door for her,
you know, or things like that.
But that's the challenge.
when you were going into labor
and- ‘cause we had this conversation
that you felt like I wasn't really there there.
there for you as much as I-
I guess I could have been.
Yeah, but you also didn't know.
It was both of our first child.
if I could go back and to improve.
so I don't really know exactly
like what you were going through.
could have done better to make...
I appreciate you saying that.
for like the second child, like,
of what I'm supposed to do and and
and how to make that, that time
What is the biggest sacrifice
I want to say motherhood.
that's the only thing I can think of.
if this happens again, I'm not gonna do nothing.
You better go grow a breast
because you're going to do breastfeed too,
because I'm not doing anything
for the next child. If it happens.
explain why I think that...
because motherhood is like
I guess it's more natural...
I should say, because motherhood is like one.
I think it's more natural
just a lot from the changes in your body
gain to, you know, the hormonal imbalance
you know, getting used to a newborn.
I know that I'm hard on myself, too.
But that's definitely something
sometimes I feel alone in that, you know?
But it doesn't stop the feeling of it
doesn't stop feeling, like,
But there's got to be something.
What was your first time like?
you're hesitant to ask that.
So I'm not going to answer that.
So I feel like that is a question that,
like, we're going away somewhere
special for the weekend, just you and I,
sipping on your favorite tea or
raspberry zinger tea, hot tea.
And we're like, have this through with the beach.
Of course we need the beach somewhere.
Like, we go to Barbados or, um... or Bahamas,
and then we have just our time.
So you can ask me then when we go.
What do you find most beautiful
completely judgment free.
And that when you love people
you love with your whole heart.
somebody I've witnessed firsthand,
but with your kids and with my dad
that when- when you love somebody,
with everything you have in you
and you will go to any extent
to make sure that the people
and feel comfortable around you,
which I think is really important.
I think there's a lot of parents
that completely missed that mark
and they don't have any care
that the people in their lives
And I feel like you've always with me
and with all your kids and my dad
and my mom made sure that we knew
and that even if you were
sure how to deal with it,
that it didn't rub off on us.
I think that it's beautiful
that when you love people,
and you don't judge them.
And if you do, you're not.
You're not mean about it.
and you do, which I appreciate.
I don’t think you’re an idiot.
When do you feel closest to me?
Um, I think I always feel
But I feel like right now
is going to be a different experience,
you're going to become a mother.
So it's like I'm helping you,
you're going to experience
I've experienced and gone through
and it's something you're going to
to be physically going through it.
I think for like a long period
and you know, but I feel like before that
especially recently, like
you tell me things where it's like,
as just my mom, this like
invincible person, you know?
But I see you as like, okay,
is still like learning things.
So I would say right now I feel closest to you.
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