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In This Episode Sisters share stories about when they’ve felt closest to each other, what makes them special, and why they’re proud to be called ‘sisters’.
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What's your three favorite memories?
This- Follow the card game.
I was told that I could ask
if I like the question. - Okay.
Yes, ma'am. Stand corrected.
What's your 3 favorite...?
I think my most favorites
Yeah? - I ain’t fool enough for y’all.
Y’all like get people crying up in here.
a semi-mother figure. Like a big sister- - You are.
And since mama's not here.
When do you think I need you most
I think you need me most when
you're not feeling well. - Yeah.
And... - Mentally and physically.
Like, I feel like I'm there.
If I can be there, I'm there. - Yeah.
And even when I almost, like,
I find a way, way to be there.
Like yesterday, prime example.
I kept saying yesterday, like,
I haven't had a transfusion in so long.
I usually like being alone on those days
and taking my mind off of things.
If I, for some reason, lost my memory...
Oh, what's the first thing
So that hits home because our mother lost
her memory with Alzheimer's,
dementia and Alzheimer's.
So that's something real personal for us.
you joke about all the time.
Like, I'm going to have Alzheimer’s..
And I'm just like, no, you're not.
Don't speak that into existence.
Don't put mouth on yourself. - Victoria...
So, the first thing I would say to you
Lynn, ain’t you my sister?
Lynn, Lynn, ain’t you my sister?
and I was substitute teaching on break
and you're in kindergarden.
And I was substituting that day.
And we were in the circle,
the little kindergarten circle.
But I knew the day before
you were going to substitute my class.
And before you came in the class,
I told all the kids in the class,
at Saint Helena Elementary School.
My sister going to be our teacher today.
My sister going to be our teacher today.
all the way down to her behind
and they called me a lie.
‘You is a lie.’ And that‘s a cuss word. - And that’s a cuss word in Gullah.
You’re not supposed to say that. - You say, you’re telling the story.
But they call- they say ‘you a lie’.
So I yelled across the class
And I have never acted out in class
disrespectfully because you get-
I would have done the same
if my big sister came in and was a sub.
But that's what I would say to you.
Lynn, Lynn, ain’t you my sister? - Yeah, and I’m proud.
I'm proud to be your sister, girl.
I'm Lynn's younger sister. Now...
Yeah. Like, no, I'm Victoria sister.
neat when things change? - This shift.
I think a lot of things came out
questions that I never told you,
going to be one of these questions
which like, bring it up. - Just go with it.
But just like exactly what you said to me
and how much you loved me
And despite fighting and arguing and
also loving each other, I am like so
unbelievably proud of you
and makes me laugh and makes me mad.
Who is also my best friend.
are you hesitant to tell me? Anything?
Yeah, I think I'm hesitant to tell you.
I guess, like how much I...
like, I can see you wanting it too,
and I am hesitant to, like, feel it
there are so many other things that like,
like on the East Coast in the US.
I always think that like leaving
your house, it's always hard
for me to like leave you. - Yeah.
I do not understand what you do.
But I know it's smart people stuff and...
Well, this year I just- I just traveled.
Yeah. - This is my travel year.
Probably just more silly conversations
with different kinds of people.
Different, yeah, different cultures.
Same Sophie. Different cultures.
Different spot, different me. - Yeah.
I’m triggered that you brought up the crop top.
What do we do when we're triggered here?
until I got a little on the chubbier side.
I feel like I saw a crop top in your
in your coronavirus travel videos.
That's what I- - If we’re
uncomfortable, we don’t have to answer the question.
We didn't set that boundary.
That we couldn’t talk about crop tops before.
When do you think I feel closest to you?
when we go into the bathroom
and the door’s wide open, I'm getting ready
and I purposely make eye contact
And you're like, oh my God, why?
But it's not- it's not gross.
But it's so intense, like, oh! - Just right-
It's like, I say hi. - Can you not?
And I tell you- - I mean, you sit on the toilet and
I'm going to make eye contact with you.
And- and then you're like, oh!
but you find my eyes anyway. And I’m like:
But I warned you. I know. - And I don’t close the door.
And then we just talk about work.
Okay, that's the worst. Okay. When do you-
When do I feel closest to you?
When you make those noises. - Stop.
literally, when we play roommate
and I put my cold feet on you.
swear, swear, swear on you.
‘cause you put your cold feet on me today.
Yeah. - And I was like, that's too recent.
Like, there's got to be something else.
But, like, I mean, it goes even back to,
like when we shared a bedroom growing up.
wanted to share a bedroom. - Right.
opportunity, like, oh, cool, like... - Right.
But like we wanted to have.
And we only had one bed to make.
What have you learned from me
Like how much we can heal from anything.
And I think that your struggle
with addiction and overcoming that, like,
is so beautiful and inspiring to me.
I mean, I can't fully imagine
and how that feels now, but I just like,
the fact that you were able to
relationship and find a grounded life and
yeah, just not be tempted
that is such a big lesson
and I just honor that part within you
navigate and discern that like
and find the tools to get through it.
that's just such a wild journey and
you're brave and you don't
realize how brave that you are
because you just do things
and you don't necessarily
as roadblocks in your life.
But yeah, you're a very strong person
If this was our last conversation,
you'll never want me to forget?
Girl, that I love you so much.
you just don't know how much
I know you are always going to be there
for me, regardless of what.
Yeah, I will. I have your back now.
You might be afraid to fight,
spiritual connection. - Right.
We could be in two different places.
We've been in two different places
we come up with the same outfit
without even talking about it. So it's
it's that we have this connection.
Spiritual connection. - We do.
We go shopping, come around the corner.
I know. - Or the same jewelry in our hand.
My mom... what she always said:
Take care of one another. - Right.
And we've lived up to that.
By loving one another and taking care.
Looking after our brother.
You know, men are not like us.
We gotta look out for our brothers.
even though it's hard sometimes we do it.
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