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In This Episode Exes reunite (some of them for the first time) after their breakup and talk about their previous romantic relationship: what they cherished about it and what was left unsaid until then.
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about our time together as a couple?
I don't think I resent anything.
about the decisions that we made.
But I wouldn't call it resent.
Because, again, I'm glad it all happened.
That day when you texted me
me, like, did you really mean it?
Yeah. - But it was just so random.
I mean, was it supposed to be- was there
a time frame for me to forgive you?
No, I know is not- but is the way-
before, I deleted your number.
The night before, I just got fed up
and I deleted your number.
I know your number by heart,
But I was like, This is so weird.
your number the night before.
And then you text me the next day
when you send that to me is like
Like, I didn't know what to say.
You could’ve said: ‘okay’. I don’t know.
I didn't know what to say.
I kind of said the right thing,
but I just didn't know what to say
it was like out of the blue.
tell your emotions through text,
you know, whatever the case may be,
being that we don't really talk.
It was a lot to think about.
I can't be mad at myself and
I didn't want to forgive you.
And I just wanted to just
you know, blame you and stuff like that.
And then one day I just woke up
And I wasn't- I wasn't upset.
I was just like, I'm over it, you know?
That was my mindset when I woke up.
we've been pretty honest all the time.
Yeah. - I feel like when we first broke up,
about telling you how much I care for you still.
Okay. - And that took me a while
Like, even when we were saying
we were just friends, I still, like,
had a hope that something would change.
That makes sense, I guess.
I think- I think, I mean, at the time, it
well, it was like a lot of things,
but there were several times
where I felt like we kept trying
kept fucking up and it didn't-
When we had dinner on Valentine's Day,
one situation that I always remembered.
We were trying to be. - Okay.
But then after that... - I still was like-
Oh, maybe there's hope. Oh, we’re
having a Valentine's dinner together.
And then you were a dick.
And I was like: Mmm, gotta go.
Because then... - I realized.
And I was still seeing... - Yeah.
What's your fondest memory from our time
when I was in the apartment with ___________ and ____________.
We were in kind of a rough patch.
But you came over and slow danced with me
Do you remember this at all?
And we listened to, like, oh,
it was that guy that was at _________.
Do you know who I'm talking about?
And we stayed up for a long time.
And... - I do remember that.
It was a tough time, but a good memory. - It was a tough time.
Let’s change it up a bit.
from when we first started dating?
And how do you feel about it? - Oh, my God.
How have I changed since I was 14 years old?
We have spent over a quarter of our lives
We went from being stupid freshmen
to stupid adults, but, like...
Oh, it’s such a nice time.
Yeah, we- I have no idea who I would be
our whole crying over pasta- Was-
Who we would be without each other.
when we first started our relationship,
you were not in the best place.
It was worse than that. - It was worse than that.
And you are so different now.
You know how to take care of yourself.
And I don't take credit for that at all.
you're- you're one of the
most mature people I know.
You are an amazing filmmaker.
But- - Sometimes I feel like
you don't realize how much I've changed,
because I feel like I revert back
A lot. I was listening to the, like,
I took of you for my winter break
I just- I'm like, do you still like me?
And I'm just like, what the fuck?
Like, I just really needed you
even, like, six months ago.
And I'm not like that with people now.
Yeah. - I don't think. I hope not-
but I was really like that with you even.
when I can have full composure
whenever we're hanging out
because you have a really,
you would tell me about us?
that I'm your best friend.
I would say I take that- I take that title.
I’d say I'm your best friend
will probably be my mom and my dad
and that we can talk for hours
you can always say anything to me.
said anything that you want.
So you can always be free to be yourself.
I’d say that our families are... your family's
we grew up with each other
pretty much basically one person.
And what’s yours is mine and mine is yours.
I think I would appreciate that.
I'd also want you to tell me
everything that I already hated.
It'd be horrible to come out
and have different likes and dislikes.
We might not be cool anymore.
You might be like, Huh? - Oh, yeah, I'd...
definitely have to show pictures that-
You can watch this movie.
Show you all those things
because we all know how that goes. - Exactly.
our last conversation, what's something
you never want me to forget?
I'm tearing up, but, like,
I don't know. Everything about you.
You're just. You're so loved
and there's so many people
I haven't been validated like that in a long time.
If this were to be our last conversation,
you'd never want me to forget?
How much you’re loved, um.
I know that everybody who knows
I have endless love for you.
And I will always have endless love
And sometimes I feel like
my heart sometimes because you are.
everything you've been through and, like,
our individual issues, like,
I fucking love the shit out of you.
I don't know. I just like.
I know that you're supposed
to be in my life, you know,
life would suck if you were not here.
I wouldn't want you to forget
anything negative to say about you.
you deserve, like, nothing but goodness
I feel the same about you.
Dammit! - You're really trying not to cry.
I know. I was really, really trying. - Yeah.
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